Keeping your emotional life healthy is just as important as keeping your body healthy. Follow these 6 tips to help you create a healthy, balanced relationship with your life partner.
- Do the things you did the first year you were dating.
As the months and years roll on, we tend to get lazy in our relationship. We lose our patience, gentleness, thoughtfulness, understanding and the general effort we once made toward our mate. Think back to the first year of your relationship and write down all the things you used to do for your partner. Now start doing them again.
- Ask for what you want.
Over time, we assume that our partner knows us so well that we don’t need to ask for what we want. What happens when we make this assumption? Expectations are set and just as quickly, they get deflated. Those unmet expectations can leave us questioning the viability of our partnership and connection. Keep in mind that “asking for what you want” extends to everything from emotional to sexual wants.
- Create a weekly check in with one another.
It can be short or long but it begins with asking each other what worked and didn’t work about the previous week and what can be done to improve things this coming week. Additionally, use this opportunity to coordinate your schedules, plan a date night and talk about what you would like to see happen in the coming days, weeks, and months in your relationship. Without an intentional appointment to do a ‘temperature’ check, unmet needs and resentments can easily build.
- Seek to understand … not agree.
Conversations quickly turn to arguments when we’re focused on hearing our partner admit that we were right or when we are intent on changing his/her opinion. Choose to approach a conversation as an opportunity to understand your significant other’s perspective as opposed to waiting for them to agree. This creates the space for an interesting dialogue and prevents a blow up or lingering frustration.
- Get creative about the time you spend together.
Break out of the “dinner and a movie” routine and watch how a little novelty can truly rejuvenate your relationship. On a budget and can’t go big? Jump on the Internet to look for “cheap date ideas’’. Can’t afford a sitter? Try swapping babysitting time with friends who have kids. It’s free and they will be happy to take your kids when they know that you will be returning the favour.
- Take a mental vacation every day.
Life and work distractions can take over to the extent that we that we have little time or energy for our partner. Practice the art of “Wearing the Relationship Hat.” This means that (barring any emergencies or deadlines), we are fully present when we’re with our mate. We truly hear what they are saying (instead of pretending to listen), we leave our distractions behind and we don’t pick them up again until the sun comes up and we walk out the door.
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